In conservative communities like Nigeria, sex is discussed in hushed tones. Just a harmless reminder though: if you are reading this article, it means you are a product of one night of the pleasure of sex. Whether done for pleasure or for the strict biological purpose of reproduction, sex has served as cord for bonding people.
Many live most of their adult lives trying to figure out how to make the most of sex — and for a good reason too.
Studies have shown that the most common cause of divorce is sexual infidelity. The number one reason for sexual infidelity is lack of sexual satisfaction. With the explosion of pornography sites, the idea of the perfect body and tool size have been sold to the consumers and this has had a crushing effect on the esteem of many men.
Men are super conscious about their penis sizes, and their ability to please their partners and lead them to the near-mythical female orgasm. In fact, in a study conducted by the University of Kentucky, 45 per cent of the 14000 people who were polled wanted a longer penis.
So What is the Perfect Penis Size?
Hurray, studies have shown that penis sizes do not really matter to women. However, research has also shown that longer penises were more likely to give women vaginal orgasms.
According to the researcher, Stuart Brody, “this might be due at least in part to greater ability of a longer penis to stimulate the entire length of the vagina, and the cervix,”
The average penis length which gives women the most pleasure is fixed at 5.8 inches which is about 14.9 cm. Another study published in the Journal for Sexual Medicine puts the average figure at a lower 5.3 inches. So don’t beat yourself up just yet.
In fact, the study also showed that, only about 20 per cent achieve vaginal orgasms via pemetration.
Is Female Orgasm Therefore A Myth?
Although the path to male orgasm is a straight, tarred road that leads to ejaculation, the female orgasm is a curvier bend. While vaginal orgasms might be harder to come by in penile-vaginal sex, there are a lot of other creative ways to pleasure your partner and give them orgasms — one of which is the clitoral stimulation.
For people with a less than average penises, creative foreplay is the saving grace and the clitoris is the button that might propel you and your partner into Graceland. Even though the clitoral orgasm is usually more of a tingly feeling on the surface, they could just be as mind-blowing.
A 2017 study shows that stimulation of the clitoris is the easiest way for most women to experience orgasm. Of the 1000 women involved in the study, about 7 out of 10 people said they required stimulation of the clitoris to orgasm.
At the end of the day, there is no hard and fast rule for having sex, really. Good sex is certain when partners are willing to safely explore each other and find out what works for them.