People often say honesty is the bedrock of relationships but the sad thing is: humans are not completely honest beings. Not even to their partners, according to a new study. People in relationships lie for many reasons: to hide the fact that they are cheating on their partners, to preserve or to create a false impression of themselves, or because they are not sure whether their partners can handle the truth. For what reasons do people lie in relationships?
Although humans claim that they love the truth, truth still remains a bitter pill to swallow. A study on 200 Nigerians revealed that people mostly lie to the ones they love because they are terrified of what might happen if they tell the truth.
Look at these examples
For instance, if your wife makes you a meal that didn’t taste so good and she asked your opinion, what would you say?
Or what would you say if your current partner asks you if your ex was better in bed compared to him? If your ex was actually better, would you tell him?
In both of these cases, you are put between the devil and the deep blue sea. Would you rather tell them the truth and crush their ego or would you take the diplomatic route and just tell a white lie? It is a test of emotional intelligence.
This is just one of the many variants of lying we deploy in our relationships. Some people also lie as a form of self-preservation. For instance, a man who is dating a diva might slightly exaggerate his financial capabilities in order to match the requirements of the woman. This is very common in online relationships.
Quick question: do you think white lies should be encouraged in relationships or would you rather be with a blunt person?
Fun fact: one study shows that an average human can’t go 10 minutes without telling a lie.